When family life is good, children thrive. Find out why relationships between parents matter so much to children, and how to improve your relationship with your partner or ex-partner.
Whether you’re together or separated, the way you and your partner communicate can impact on your children. All relationships have tricky moments it’s how they’re experienced and resolved that matters. Of course, disagreements and arguments are completely normal and part of everyday life but if it is becoming a problem then you can get help. Parental conflict is not the same as domestic abuse – if you are afraid of your partner or feeling that they control your life then this is may be domestic abuse, please seek help .
Conflict in any relationships we have is normal, but if children are experiencing frequent exposure to conflict between their care givers and it is intense and poorly resolved this can have an impact on children. This can result in long term mental health issues, emotional struggles, social and behavioural difficulties as well as not doing so well in school as they develop.
Do you recognise any of these things?
- Are you arguing, having rows, shouting all the time with each other about things like, money, how you parent or housework?
- Are you worried about splitting up?
- Is there sulking, silent treatment, slamming doors or walking away from each other?
- Are you anxious or worried and is this getting in the way of managing everyday life?
- Are you not able to say sorry after an argument and move on?
- Are you using hurtful texts, emails or social media against each other?
Watch the video to find out more information
We have put together some useful information and resources within the pink tabs to the left of this page which may support your relationships.
Information for Practitioners can be found here.
A video example to discuss the impact of conflict upon children.
A video example designed to reduce parental conflict in front of children, this example includes a conversation over a haircut.
A video example designed to reduce parental conflict in front of children, this example includes a conversation over being withdrawn.